Understanding Pain with Sex: It’s Not Just After Having a Baby

Have you experienced pain during sex?
Have you ever injured your pelvis or tailbone?
Do you feel discomfort during or after orgasm?
Are you unsure if you've ever had an orgasm?
Has sex always been painful for you?
Do you have conditions like PCOS or endometriosis?
Or has sex suddenly become painful?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, know that you’re not alone.

Many people assume that pelvic floor dysfunction, such as pain during sex, urinary leakage, or pelvic organ prolapse, only affects those who have had children. However, that’s not the case. Pelvic floor issues can arise without ever having been pregnant, and they can be just as impactful on your quality of life.

What Causes Pelvic Floor Dysfunction?

Pelvic floor dysfunction can be triggered by a variety of factors. Sometimes it’s related to a specific event, like falling on your tailbone, an injury to your pelvis, or another type of trauma. In other cases, the cause is unclear. Regardless of the reason, there is help available, and it’s important to seek it out.

The muscles of the pelvic floor are incredibly smart. They often tighten and guard the pelvic region as a protective response, especially after an injury or trauma. While this guarding can help in the short term, it can lead to chronic pain and dysfunction if not addressed.

What Can Be Done?

The good news is that pelvic floor dysfunction can be treated. The key is to gently retrain these muscles, teaching them how to move properly, how to relax, and how to contract when needed. By connecting with your pelvic floor muscles, you can learn to recognize when they’re holding tension and how to help them relax.

From there, it’s all about building strength. Strengthening your glutes, core, and pelvic floor muscles can empower you to live without pain—whether that’s during a workout, a long day at work, or intimate moments with your partner.

You Deserve a Life Without Pain

You can work out without experiencing pelvic pain afterward.
You can go through your day without cramping.
And yes, you can have sex without pain.

Get Professional Help

If you're experiencing the above symptoms and looking for “pelvic floor therapy near me”, consider scheduling a consultation at one of our locations in Kansas City-Overland Park, Kansas, or Lees Summit, Missouri. Click here to book your appointment.

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With wellness in your pelvis-

Amanda Fisher
Owner, Empower Your Pelvis, a pelvic floor therapist in Kansas City (Overland Park, KS and Lees Summit, MO)

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